People and relationships

People and relationships

Let’s talk about people. Life is all about relationships. In life you will have deal with people all the time in almost everything you do. Life revolves around interacting with others and this is called relationships. Whether it be an acquaintance, a friend, family member, coworker or boss your relationship and the way you interact with them will determine a lot in regards to whether you have a positive or negative experience with that person. It will also determine whether or not you get what you want out of the encounter. For instance, if you have a negative attitude you are most likely not going to have a good experience and you will almost for sure not get the cooperation you were looking for. In life we want to build many healthy relationships. It has been said that we should spend 30% of our time with people that are above us or that have achieved something that we want to achieve, 30% of our time with people that are where we are in life, 30% of our time helping people to move up in life or just giving back, and 10% of our time resting.  So what can we do to optimize how we interact with others? We can start with remembering people’s names. This is a fundamental that you should focus on whenever you meet someone new. It has been said that a person’s name is the most important word they will ever hear. Remembering a person’s name tells that person that they stood out to you and that they were important in your eyes. That will make them feel important and as we all know we all like to feel important.  Also it will help you to focus on what the other person wants. If you can do this they will be inclined to help you get what you want in return. Most people become so blind to what they want that they forget to look at what the other person needs. This leads to all sorts of misfortune. If the person you are talking to is going through a rough time or is preoccupied with something else you would want to get that issue removed so that they can more clearly focus on what you need. How many times have we needed something but we charged in only thinking of ourselves and run smack into someone else’s bad day? Now we are both in conflict and end up venting at each other so instead of getting what we needed we end up more aggravated. Now that was an extreme example, but even on the other side of the coin how many times have you needed something and found your boss distracted or just unwilling to help even when your suggestion is a good one. Never out shine the people above you. This causes people to become scared and people that are in fear do very irrational things. When you need something from someone try to make it their idea that way they are more inclined to help you. Also remember to smile. It is very hard to stay unhappy in the face of a cheerful smiling person. Even the most angry people will lose a lot of their anger in the face of a smile. Be willing to compromise. When you are working with others be a team player even if your idea is the best. If you are not willing to work with others and compromise the other person may become resentful and that will stop all progress toward the goal. On a side note, once you have aroused someone’s ego they will hold their ground even if they are completely wrong. It is hard for people to lose face so if you start to have an issue with someone take them to the side and try to work it out in private or just drop it for a time and try to come back to the issue after you have both calmed down. Also never insult someone or argue. This never accomplishes anything and is a complete waste of time and energy.  This has run a little longer than I wanted. There is so much to talk about here that we could go on for much longer but for now I would like to leave you with one more thing…toxic people. In life you are going to run into people that are just there to use, manipulate, and take These people may pose as good people but they have no drive, no purpose, and they do not want you to succeed They are just going to suck the happiness and joy from your life and bring nothing but problems to your world. Avoid these people like the plague. They will keep you from achieving your true purpose.

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